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Thursday, 30 September 2021

How to Make a Vegan Chocolate Cake with Avocado

If you're looking to make a vegan chocolate cake, then this recipe is for you. This cake has a fudge flavor with a rich frosting—all made with vegan-friendly ingredients.

Prep time: 30 minutes
Cook time: 25 minutes
Serves 16


[Edit]Cake Batter

  • Dairy-free sunflower spread or oil
  • 1 large avocado
  • 300 g light muscovado sugar
  • 350 g gluten-free flour
  • 50 g cocoa powder
  • 1 tsp baking soda
  • 2 tsp gluten-free baking powder
  • 400 mL unsweetened soya milk
  • 150 mL vegetable oil
  • 2 tsp vanilla extract
  • ½ tsp salt


  • 85 g avocado, mashed
  • 85 g dairy-free sunflower spread
  • 200 g dairy-free baking chocolate (70% cocoa, broken into chunks)
  • 25 g cocoa powder
  • 125 mL unsweetened soya milk
  • 200 g icing sugar
  • 1 tsp vanilla extract
  • Gluten-free and vegan sprinkles


[Edit]Making the Cake

  1. Preheat the oven to 160 °C (320 °F).

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  2. Grease two baking tins with the sunflower spread or oil. Ideally, the tins should be 20 cm in length. Afterwards, line each with parchment paper.

  3. Puree the avocado and muscovado sugar in a food processor. Stop once you reach a smooth consistency.

  4. Add in the flour, cocoa powder, baking soda, baking powder, soya milk, vegetable oil, vanilla extract, and salt. Continue to mix in the food processor until you get a liquid batter.

  5. Pour the batter into the baking tins in equal portions.

  6. Bake for 25 mins or until fully risen. To test whether the cake is ready, insert a toothpick into the middle of the cakes, then remove. If the toothpick comes out clean, the cakes are fully cooked.

  7. Remove from the oven and allow to cool in the tins for 5 minutes.
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  8. Turn the cakes onto a wire rack. This will finish the cooling process.

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[Edit]Making the Frosting

  1. In a large bowl, beat together the avocado and sunflower spread. Use electric beaters and stop when the texture is creamy.

  2. Pass the mixture through a sieve and set aside.

  3. Melt the chocolate and let it cool for about 5 minutes. You can do this with hot water over a double boiler setup, or simply microwave for 30 seconds.

  4. Sift the cocoa powder into a large bowl.

  5. Pour the soya milk into a saucepan and bring to a simmer.

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  6. Combine the milk with the cocoa power. You will want to do this slowly and gradually. Beat until the mixture is smooth.

  7. Add in the avocado mix, icing sugar, melted chocolate, and vanilla extract. Continue mixing to get a thick frosting.

[Edit]Building the Cake

  1. Stack the cakes on top of each other.

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  2. Frost the cakes using a rubber spatula.

  3. Decorate with sprinkles if desired.

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  4. Allow to set for 10 minutes before slicing.
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[Edit]Things You'll Need

  • Measuring spoons and cups
  • Two baking tins
  • Parchment paper
  • Food processor
  • Mixing bowls
  • Rubber spatula
  • Toothpick
  • Wire rack
  • Electric beater
  • Kitchen sieve
  • Saucepan
  • For melting chocolate: double boiler setup or microwave


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How to Make a YouTube Short

YouTube Shorts is a new YouTube feature that allows you to create a short video that is no longer than 60-seconds using your smartphone. You can also adjust the speed of the video as well as add music and text to it. This wikiHow teaches you how to make a YouTube Short.


[Edit]Shooting a YouTube Short

  1. Open YouTube on your smartphone or tablet. The YouTube app has an icon that resembles a red video screen with a white 'play' triangle in the middle. Tap the YouTube icon on your Home screen or Apps menu to open YouTube.
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    • In order to make sure you have access to YouTube Shorts, make sure you have the latest version of YouTube. You can update your YouTube app in the Google Play Store on Android, or the App Store on iPhone or iPad.
  2. Tap . It's the icon with the plus sign (+) at the bottom-center of the screen. This displays a pop-up menu that gives you the option to upload a video, create a short, or live stream.
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  3. Tap . It's the second option in the "Create" menu at the bottom of the screen.
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  4. Tap to switch cameras. You can use your front-facing camera or your rear-facing camera. Tap the icon with two arching arrows in the upper-right corner to switch cameras. Use your front-facing camera to shoot videos of yourself. Use your rear-facing camera to shoot videos of a scene.
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    • If you would rather upload a short clip you already made, tap the thumbnail icon in the lower-left corner. Select a video you want to upload from your Gallery or Camera Roll and tap Next in the upper-right corner.
  5. Select a video speed. You can slow down or speed up the video when you film. This will make your video appears as if it was shot in slow-motion or timelapse. To select a video speed, tap the icon that resembles a speedometer and select a speed. Your speed options are as follows:
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    • 0.3X: This slows down your video to about ⅓ the normal speed.
    • 0.5X: This slows down your video to ½ the normal speed.
    • 1X: This is normal speed. This is the default setting.
    • 2X: This doubles the speed of your video.
    • 3X: This triples the speed of your video.
  6. Select how long of a video you want to shoot. You can shoot a short 15-second video or a 60-second video. Tap the 15 or 60 above the red "record" button at the bottom of the screen to toggle between 15 and 60 seconds.
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  7. Add music to your video (optional). YouTube has a vast library of music you can use in your video short. However, if you add music to a clip, you can only shoot 15 seconds of video. Use the following steps to add music to your video:
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    • Tap Add Music at the top of the screen.
    • Type the name of a song or artist in the search bar at the top.
    • Tap a song you want to use.
    • Tap the blue arrow icon to the left.
  8. Adjust where the music starts (optional). Since you can shoot no more than 15 seconds of video when you add music, you may need to adjust where the music starts. You can start the song from the beginning or you can use a specific verse or chorus of a song. Use the following steps to adjust the music:
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    • Tap Adjust to the left.
    • Tap and drag the audio clip at the bottom of the screen to where you want it to start.
    • Tap Done.
  9. Set a timer to start filming. In some cases, you may need to get in position before you start filming. The countdown timer not only gives you a set time before it starts filming, but it also lets you set how long you want to film. Use the following steps to set a countdown timer.
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    • Tap the icon that resembles a clock in the sidebar to the right.
    • Tap 3s, 10s, or 20s to set how long you want the countdown to be.
    • Tap and drag the blue line to however many seconds you want to be able to film.
    • Tap Start.
  10. Tap the red "record" button to start filming. Tap the large red button at the bottom of the screen to start filming. Tap the red square "stop" button to stop filming. Alternatively, you can tap and hold the red "record" button to start filming and release it when you want to stop filming. The red line at the top of the screen indicates how much of the time you have used. If the line isn't completely full, you can add more clips to what you have already recorded.
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    • If you are not happy with the last clip you have recorded, tap the reverse arrow pointing to the left next to the record button to undo the previously recorded clip.
    • You can zoom by tapping and dragging the red record button upwards, or by placing your fingers on the screen and spreading them apart.
  11. Tap . When you are finished recording all the clips you want to record, tap the white icon with a checkmark to proceed to the editing process. It's in the lower-left corner.
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[Edit]Adding Text and Music to a Short

  1. Add Music. In addition to adding music during the filming process, you can also add music after you finish recording. You can only use 15 seconds of a song. Also be aware that the audio from the music will replace the audio from your video short. Use the following steps to add music to your clip:
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    • Tap Music at the bottom-left corner of the screen.
    • Type the name of a song or artist in the search bar at the top.
    • Tap a song you want to use.
    • Tap the blue arrow icon to the left.
  2. Adjust where the music starts. Since you can only use 15 seconds of music in your video, you may need to adjust where the music starts. You can start the music from the beginning or use a specific verse or chorus. Use the following steps to adjust the music:
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    • Tap Adjust at the bottom of the screen.
    • Tap and drag the audio clip at the bottom to where you want it to start.
    • Tap Done.
  3. Add text to your clip. You can add text captions to your video to make them more fun. Use the following steps to add text to your clip:
    Make a YouTube Short Step 14.jpg
    • Tap Text at the bottom of the screen or tap the center of the screen.
    • Type your text using the on-screen keyboard.
    • Tap one of the colored circles at the bottom to select the text color.
    • Tap and drag the slider dot to the left to adjust the size of the text.
    • Tap the box with the "A" in the upper-left corner to select a text box style.
    • Tap the icon with four lines in the upper-left corner to select the text alignment (i.g. left, right, or center).
    • Tap the box at the top-center of the screen to select the text font.
    • Tap Done.
    • Tap and drag the text to where you want it to appear.
  4. Adjust the duration of the text. You can adjust when the text appears and disappears in the video short. Use the following steps to adjust the duration of the text:
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    • Tap Timeline at the bottom of the screen.
    • Tap and drag the grey bar on the right side of a text bar at the bottom to indicate where you want the text box to begin in the video.
    • Tap and drag the grey bar on the left side of a text bar at the bottom to indicate where you want the text box to stop in the video.
    • Tap the 'Play' triangle to preview the video.
    • Tap Done.
  5. Tap . When you are finished adding text and music, tap Next in the upper-right corner to proceed to the upload process.
    Make a YouTube Short Step 16.jpg

[Edit]Uploading a Short

  1. Type a title for the short. Use the bar below "Title" to create a title for the video.
    Make a YouTube Short Step 17.jpg
  2. Select a visibility setting. To select a visibility setting, tap the box below the title and then tap one of the three privacy settings. The privacy settings are "Public," "Private," and "Unlisted." You can also schedule a time to upload it.
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    • To schedule a time to upload the video, tap Schedule at the bottom and tap the box with the date and time. Use the calendar to schedule a date and time for the video to be published. Scheduled videos can only be published as "Public."
  3. Select if the video is made for kids or not. Tap the box that has an icon with two people. Then tap Yes, it's made for kids if the video is made for kids. Tap No, it's not made for kids to indicate that the video is not made for kids.
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    • Additionally, you can set an age restriction. To do so, tap "Age restriction (advanced)" at the bottom and then tap "Yes, restrict my video to viewers over 18" or tap "No, don't restrict my video to viewers over 18".
    • It is recommended that you read more about YouTube's policies about content made for children to learn how to comply with Children's Online Privacy Protection Act.
  4. Tap . It's the blue button in the upper-right corner. This uploads your video to YouTube.
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How to Store Art

Whether you collect art as a hobby or have a studio of your own, you may eventually need to place your artwork in storage. To properly protect and store your artwork, you have to choose a storage environment and packing materials that won’t cause premature aging or damage. Handle all work with care.


[Edit]Selecting a Suitable Location

  1. Pick a room that’s as dark as possible. Light is one of artwork’s biggest enemies. It can cause all sorts of damage, so you want to store your art in a dark place. Choose a windowless room, such as a finished basement or study, to store your artwork.[1]
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  2. Keep the room at a temperature of about . For most artworks, a steady, cool temperature is ideal. More extreme climates can crack paint, warp or yellow paper, and foster mold growth.[2]
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    • If the room you’ve selected goes through drastic changes in temperature during different seasons, you should pick another location to store your art.
    • If you are not storing art in your home, your next-best option is a storage unit. Give nearby storage companies a call and ask if they have temperature-controlled units available.
    • If you have a local art gallery near you, you can call and ask them for recommended storage services.[3]
  3. Maintain a humidity of 50% in the storage room. Materials like paint and wood are especially sensitive to humidity. Keeping a constant, moderate level of humidity in the storage area will keep your artwork from changing shape or getting moldy.[4] You can moderate the room’s humidity using a humidifier or dehumidifier.[5]
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[Edit]Preparing Your Art for Storage

  1. Put on gloves before touching any art. Some art materials are hypersensitive, even to the natural oils on your fingertips. Wearing cotton or powder-free latex gloves when handling your art can prevent you from accidentally causing it harm.[6]
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  2. Check to see if all works are dry. If you’re storing any paintings, sculptures, or ceramics, make sure they’re completely dry before handling. Some artwork, such as oil paintings, can take up to an entire year to dry.[7]
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  3. Clean your art. Cleaning artwork before storage will help extend its lifespan. A dry microfiber cloth, rag, or paper towel is enough to clean most artwork. Gently sweep it across frames, glass panes, ceramics, and acrylic paintings. You can brush over painted surfaces, drawings, and mixed media with a wide, soft makeup or paint brush.[8]
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    • Clean metal sculptures or frames with an oil-based polish and buff with a dry rag.[9]
    • You can use masking tape to gently lift dust off of an oil painting.[10]
  4. Protect framed paintings with acid-free tissue. Acid is in many paper and packing materials, and will age art much faster and can change its color. Using acid-free tissue, wrap around the painting to protect it and give it breathing room. Then roll it into a padding, like bubble wrap, to protect the frame.
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    • You can wrap paintings with plastic wrap instead of tissue, but you risk sealing humidity inside. If your art is part of a valuable collection, steer clear of it.[11]
  5. Group smaller prints together in a folder. Put acid-free paper or tissue between the prints if they are unprotected. Slip your prints into sturdy folders, with about 10-15 in each.[12]
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  6. Seal unframed paper in glassine. Glassine is a material used by archivists to preserve unframed artwork and documents. You can purchase glassine online, at a printmaking shop, or in an art supply store. Cut a sheet of glassine about two times the size of each piece. Wrap it as you might a present, then tape it facedown onto a piece of foamcore.
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    • You also have the option to roll your work into the glassine, but it may be more difficult to flatten once you remove it from storage.
  7. Wrap sculptures and other 3D objects in bubble wrap. When preparing to store sculptures, wrap them in bubble wrap. Use multiple layers if necessary. Tape the bubble wrap in place.
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  8. Place all wrapped artwork into boxes. You should try to give each item its own sturdy cardboard box, though you can place folders horizontally in a box together. Once you’ve put your art in boxes, stuff the rest of each box with newspaper to prevent the art from shifting around.[13]
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[Edit]Housing Your Art

  1. Handle one piece at a time. You don’t want to ruin all of your hard work and preparation by trying to store it too quickly. Move your artwork piece by piece when putting it into storage.[14]
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  2. Label and keep a record of your stored art. Using tape and a permanent marker, label all the boxes of artwork. Include each work’s title and artist on your label. Create a spreadsheet or written record of what art you’ve stored and where it’s located.[15]
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  3. Keep art off of the ground. You never want your artwork touching the storage room floor. Place smaller boxes on shelves or in drawers. Larger boxes can be elevated on racks or risers.[16]
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  4. Stand paintings on their sides in boxes or on storage racks. You want to avoid putting any pressure on paintings, so don’t stack them flat. Stand them on their sides and place them next to one another as you would if you were putting books on a bookshelf.[17]
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  5. Check your art for damage every few months or so. Even if you’ve set up perfect conditions for your artwork, problems and subtle changes can still arise in the storage environment. Checking in on it is the best method to catch any potential issues early on. Take a look at your collection once in a while make sure it’s performing well and hasn’t changed or had any unwelcome visitors (e.g. pests, mold).[18]
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    • Look for these signs of pests in your storage area: entry or exit holes, fur, fallen particles from feeding, droppings, or cocoon cases.[19]
    • Leave traps of your choice once you’ve found signs of infestation.
    • Mold will appear as fine webbing, or clusters of spotty or fuzzy material. If your collection feels damp or smells musty, this can also indicate mold. Reduce the humidity level in the room, then go online or consult an expert for how to appropriately handle the variety of mold that has invaded.


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Wednesday, 29 September 2021

How to Get Along with Friends

Movies and TV shows would have you believe that friendships just fall into place effortlessly, without much conflict. In real life, though, friendship takes a lot of work and can be complicated sometimes! By building a strong foundation for your friendship and working to reduce conflict, maintaining your relationships with friends will become a whole lot easier.


[Edit]Be positive.

  1. Focusing on the upside makes you a better friend. Complaints, drama, or regular talks about hopeless-sounding situations can wear your friends thin after a while. If you’re someone who likes discussing emotional subjects, that’s okay⁠, but remember to strike a balance and talk about more cheerful or lighthearted topics, too. Discussing something as simple as books or video games, or sharing funny or uplifting stories, is better for your friendships (and everyone’s moods).[1]
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    • For example, if you're wrapping up a discussion about a bleak news article, change subjects with something like, "On a more lighthearted note, have you listened to the latest episode of that podcast yet? I really liked it."
    • Of course, if something bad happens, it’s okay to lean on your friends for support. You’re not expected to be positive all the time.[2]

[Edit]Show sincerity.

  1. Your friends don't need you to be someone you're not. Whether you're getting to know each other or are being asked for your feedback, being honest and authentic with your friends will strengthen your bond with them. It's a lot easier to get along with friends if you're comfortable sharing your real thoughts and personality.[3]
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    • If your friend asks for your opinion on some of their artwork, for instance, don't pretend it's perfect to avoid hurting their feelings. Instead, give them genuine feedback: "It might need some more contrast, because the colors fade together. Otherwise, it looks good, and I actually really like it."

[Edit]Display interest in your friends.

  1. Your friends want to feel like you care about their lives. When you don’t know what to talk about, it can be tempting to talk about yourself⁠—but if you only talk about yourself, your friends might get annoyed. Making an effort to learn about your friends shows them that you want to know about who they are, and helps you build a better relationship with them. Ask them questions about their lives and interests⁠—it will go a long way![4]
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    • “You seem really fascinated with programming. Do you have a favorite language?”
    • “I had no idea you’re an activist. What got you into the movement?”
    • “Hold up, you were chased by a giraffe once?! What happened?”

[Edit]Listen to them.

  1. Listening is just as important as showing interest. It’ll help you learn about your friends and support them when they need it. Give your friend your full attention, and make mental notes about the important things in their lives⁠—like the names of their loved ones, things they like, and major things that have happened (or are happening) in their lives.[5]
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    • If your friend shares something that they’re struggling with or are annoyed about, don’t immediately share your experiences or advice. Instead, ask them, “How are you feeling about it?” or, “What do you plan to do about that?”[6]

[Edit]Support your friends.

  1. Your friends go through highs and lows, too. Part of getting along with your friends is supporting them when they need it. Offer a listening ear if they’re struggling, celebrate their achievements, and encourage them if they’re nervous or trying to reach a goal.[7]
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    • For instance, if your friend tearfully tells you that they just broke up with their long-term partner, say, "I'm so sorry. I can't imagine what you're feeling right now, but I can tell you're really hurting. Do you want to talk about it?"
    • Pay attention to your friends’ moods. If they seem “off” or upset, they may appreciate being asked, “Is something on your mind?” or “Are you doing okay?” (And on the flip side, if they seem excited, they might like being asked about their good mood.)
    • If you’ve been invited to an event of theirs, like a birthday party, try to show up. You’ll show that you care and want to celebrate and support them.[8]

[Edit]Show that you're trustworthy.

  1. Your friends want to know that they can trust you. It can be tempting to gossip, share your friend’s secrets, or talk badly about them to someone else⁠—especially if you’re frustrated with them. But this will only show your friend that they can’t trust you with anything personal, and make them doubt your friendship. Resist the urge to tell others all the dirty details about your friends, even out of frustration.[9]
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    • Let's say you got into a huge argument with your friend, and another friend asks why you're in a bad mood. Instead of ranting about how rude or insensitive your friend is, just say, "I had a fight with Sam."
    • Or, let's say your friend came out to you and asked you to keep it secret. If someone else asks you about your friend's identity, tell them, "I don't know, but even if I did, it wouldn't be my place to tell you."

[Edit]Make time for each other.

  1. Reaching out and connecting makes your friendship stronger. Spending time with your friends has a huge impact, whether it’s for a few minutes or for several hours. Schedule fun activities with your friends, or just find time to talk for a while.[10] You don’t need to have big outings; it can be something as simple as catching up while carpooling, or sending a link to something you think they'd like.[11]
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    • If you can’t easily see your friends in-person, try texting each other or having video calls. It certainly doesn’t replace an in-person hangout, but it’s a good way to keep in touch.[12]

[Edit]Respect your differences.

  1. You and your friends don't need to agree on everything. You're your own individual people, and have different interests, opinions, and personal beliefs. Don't make it your goal to change your friend's mind on something⁠—it's okay to have friends with different beliefs. Instead, pay attention to your similarities and focus on enjoying your time together.[13]
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    • Let's say you're an extrovert who loves parties, but your friend is introverted and hates parties. Rather than dragging your friend out to parties or trying to convince them that they're missing out, find a way to spend time together that both of you can enjoy, like hanging out at home. (You can always attend parties with someone else.)
    • If there’s a topic that tends to provoke fights, it’s okay to agree to disagree, or not discuss the topic. Say, "I can tell we're both really passionate about this. I really value our friendship, so let's agree to disagree and move on."

[Edit]Calmly discuss problems one-on-one.

  1. Talking directly to your friend is the best way to solve an issue. If your friend is doing something that’s bothering you, it doesn’t help to drop hints, give them the silent treatment, or leave them out. Instead, talk to them one-on-one about what’s bothering you, and calmly share how you feel about it using “I” statements. Make your goal to find a solution together, without unkind behavior.[14]
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    • For example, if your friend has given you an embarrassing nickname, pull them aside and say, “I know you’re trying to be funny, but when you call me that, I get really embarrassed. Please don’t call me that.”
    • Don’t make vague accusations or say “always” or “never”. Something like “Could you please quit copying me all the time?” can put them on the defensive. Instead, be clear about the problem: “I don’t like when you write similar stories to mine. It feels like you’re plagiarizing my work, and I want to see what kind of ideas you have, too.”[15]

[Edit]Be empathetic.

  1. It helps to show understanding and care. Whether your friend has come to you with a problem, or you're having a conflict over something, you'll get along better if you can see something through their perspective. Judging them or downplaying how they feel can make them feel hurt or angry, so avoid statements like, "You actually believe that?" or, "You're making a huge deal out of nothing." Show that you understand how they're feeling, rather than disapproval or judgement towards their words or actions.[16]
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    • Let's say your friend is a fairly smart person, but admits to you that they were scammed. Instead of asking how they didn't see it was a scam, say, "Scammers are awful⁠—I'm sorry. They can be really clever sometimes."
    • Showing empathy doesn't mean agreeing with your friend. As an example, if your friend was caught cheating on a test, you can validate their feelings without validating their actions: "They're calling you in to discuss it? That's pretty nerve-wracking. I'd be anxious, too."

[Edit]Accept your friends as-is.

  1. Every friend will have their own oddities and behaviors. While it's important to solve friendship problems, sometimes a "problem" is so minor that it's not worth starting a possible conflict over it⁠—like if they're always five minutes late. Plus, trying to change how your friend acts can be tiring for you both. Accepting your friend's "good sides" and "bad sides" will make it easier to get along.[17]
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    • For instance, if your friend tends to blurt out strange (but ultimately harmless) comments, you don't need to ask them to stop. It's just part of who they are.
    • This doesn't mean tolerating your friends' behavior; it's okay to set limits if you need to, or to end a toxic friendship. But you don't need to make your friendship perfect, either.



  • Mutual interest is important. If your friend doesn’t seem interested in hanging out or listening to you and never responds to your texts (and you know they’re spending time with others), it may be better to seek out other friendships.[18]
  • Nobody “clicks” with everyone straight away. That’s normal, and it doesn’t mean you struggle with friendships or are bad with other people.


  1. https://ideas.ted.com/dear-guy-my-friends-and-i-bond-by-complaining-but-its-getting-me-down/
  2. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-teen-doctor/201701/15-ways-become-closer-others
  3. https://kidshealth.org/en/teens/cliques.html#catfriends
  4. https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/making-good-friends.htm
  5. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-teen-doctor/201701/15-ways-become-closer-others
  6. https://www.nytimes.com/guides/smarterliving/how-to-be-a-better-friend
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  8. https://www.nytimes.com/guides/smarterliving/how-to-be-a-better-friend
  9. https://au.reachout.com/articles/dealing-with-a-toxic-friendship
  10. https://www.nytimes.com/guides/smarterliving/how-to-be-a-better-friend
  11. https://www.helpguide.org/articles/relationships-communication/making-good-friends.htm
  12. https://ihpi.umich.edu/news/teens-want-covid-19-advice-gives-them-safe-ways-socialize-not-just-rules-what-they-cant-do
  13. https://www.apa.org/topics/stress/conversations
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  15. https://au.reachout.com/articles/how-to-tell-your-friend-theyve-hurt-you
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